The Road Jess Travelled

And note how remorseless & shameless he is. This is her husband weaponizing faith & doing a victory lap over destroying something his wife loved & gave her some financial independence. He hates her, uses their children against her, & is proudly violent. He will kill them.

Society likes to claim domestic violence is a personal, private matter, & attempt to restrict it to men breaking women's bones, but DV is a spectrum of escalation. Destruction of property is domestic violence. If she doesn't escape, it will escalate. He will kill them all.

It's important to note the latter is the result of the former & all built on the same ideology, which is why it isn't defensible & just thoughtlessness when men are terrible at sex. It's patriarchy, it's a choice of harm, it's rape culture, & it IS that deep.

Every time someone claims men experience patriarchal harm just as much or worse than women, what they're saying is men are at risk of being treated like women & that's worse for men bc women deserve it. No, the oppressor class isnt "just as much victims" bc they risk losing power

That's not "just as much victims." Men can (& some do!) choose not to value patriarchal status & refuse to submit to other men. Obviously that's more difficult bravery for children but in adulthood, it is your responsibility to evolve. None of us are helpless to our conditioning.

This comes back to equating men losing patriarchal status (over women) as an equal injury to women being designated subhuman, secondclass citizens, & experiencing violent enforcement of that subjugation. Yes, men are socialized to uphold gender norms & lose status if they divert.