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Last night, I made a simple request on X. I asked if anybody visiting Arlington National Cemetery for Memorial Day would stop by Alanās grave and leave a photo for our family.
What happened next honestly caught me off guard.
By this afternoon, dozens of Americans from all walks of life had made the walk to Section 60 to visit SSG Alan W. Shaw. Veterans. Families. Complete strangers. People who had never met Alan, but chose to honor him anyway.
For one day on social media, people put aside the constant noise and negativity and came together for something bigger than themselves. My notifications filled with photos, kind messages, prayers, and stories from people honoring not just Alan, but so many of our fallen heroes.
I donāt think people fully understand what moments like this mean to Gold Star families. The fear is never just losing them. Itās losing them slowly over time as the world moves on and fewer people remember their name.
But today showed me that Alan will never be forgotten.
After years of watching social media reward some of the worst parts of humanity, today gave me a reminder that the good is still out there too.
Thank you to every single person who stopped by to visit Alan today, said his name, shared his story, or took a moment to honor the fallen.
This right here is the America Alan knew and loved enough to fight and die for.
And today, yāall showed us all that itās still here and itās still worth fighting for. šŗšø
SharrellAnne retweeted
Replying to @RealMalachowski
Oh no⦠Look at this Gold Star family smiling and laughing in Section 60. The horror! š
SharrellAnne retweeted
Replying to @SecWar
@SecWar @GovWesMoore @DeptVetAffairs
Since when did a smile or laughter become a sign of disrespect toward our fallen?
Today, I've watched people express outrage over a woman laughing AFTER the Veterans Day observance at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. Not Secretary of War Pete Hegseth, but a woman attending the ceremony. Somehow he is at fault for another's laughter.
Meanwhile, here is a photograph of Maryland Governor Wes Moore, smiling, laughing, and posing for pictures outside the chapel following a Veterans Day service. My father, who served 26 years in the United States Army, is buried approximately 25 yards from where this photograph was taken. There are over 28,000 veterans and fallen buried at the Crownsville Veterans Cemetery and Memorial.
Do I find the photograph of Moore disrespectful? Do I find Governor Mooreās laughter disrespectful? No. Not at all.
Do I find the photograph of President Obama smiling and laughing while standing on the grave of one of our fallen a problem? No, not at all.
And that is precisely my point.
What I think many people are missing, particularly those who don't regularly visit cemeteries, is that these sacred places are not filled exclusively with silence, sadness, and tears. There are conversations. There are smiles. There is laughter.
Families gather around headstones and share stories. Old friends remember something funny a fallen comrade once said or did. Complete strangers strike up conversations, discover connections, and sometimes walk away smiling. I have actually met and made friends at cemeteries. A connection made over shared grief.
I've spent years visiting military and private cemeteries, researching the lives of our fallen, placing flags at their graves, and speaking with families. I've witnessed moments of profound grief, but I've also witnessed moments of genuine happiness.
A cemetery is a place of reverence, but reverence does not require the absence of joy.
There is, of course, a time for solemnity. During the playing of Taps, the laying of a wreath, a moment of silence, or the rendering of military honors, respect for the occasion matters.
But a moment of laughter, without understanding its context, should not automatically be interpreted as disrespect.
Here's where I believe we need to be careful. If we condemn someone for laughing at one military cemetery while celebrating photographs of others smiling and laughing at another, are we truly concerned about honoring our fallen? Or are we allowing our political opinions to determine what we consider disrespectful?
Respect or the determination of anotherās respect should not depend on someone's political affiliation.
I don't know what prompted the woman to laugh at Arlington. And a photograph of Governor Moore smiling outside a chapel doesn't tell us what was being said at that moment, either. What I do know is that our military cemeteries are places where grief, gratitude, remembrance, friendship, and even laughter coexist.
Our fallen deserve dignity and respect. Absolutely.
But honoring them doesn't mean we must forget how to smile.
Sometimes laughter isn't a failure to remember. Sometimes it comes from remembering and sharing a story.
With all due respect, being a combat veteran doesnāt make you the sole authority on what constitutes respect at Arlington.
There are two examples right here of people posing for photographs on those very steps with the Tomb behind them. Taking photographs there is not disrespectful.
The ceremony was over. The Sentinelās correction concerned noise, not photography. And nothing in that clip establishes that Secretary Hegseth was responsible for the laughter.
Iām beyond tired of watching people weaponize Arlington National Cemetery to score political points while lecturing everyone else about respect.
You donāt get to misrepresent what happened, invoke the sanctity of Arlington to justify your outrage, and then claim the moral high ground. Enough already.
Who uses the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier for a photo op? We took our 5-year-old twins there years ago, and they knew to behave better than this. As a combat veteran, Iām pissed. As an American, Iām left completely speechless. If you donāt understand why this is horrific and disrespectful at the highest levels, thereās nothing I can say to help you understand.
And on Veterans Day, no less. I just canāt.
Yāall, sometimes this app pushes me to my limits, and today is one of those days.
Yesterday was Alanās birthday. We were supposed to be at Arlington with the very first family through our foundation. I had envisioned that day for months. But between my health and a horrible car accident, I couldnāt make it. And that hurt more than Iāve really let on.
Then today, Iāve watched veterans sharing pictures and memories from their time in service, and I cannot tell you how thankful I am for them. Especially our GWOT veterans who made it home.
But damn, sometimes it stings.
And I hate even admitting that because I am so grateful they came home. I mean that with every fiber of my being. I just wish Alan had gotten to come home, too.
I donāt know how to explain being genuinely happy for someone while simultaneously grieving everything you lost. I donāt begrudge a single one of them the lives theyāve gotten to live. I just wish weād gotten ours.
And then I get on this app.
People who have never set foot in Arlington National Cemetery, who donāt understand military culture, who have absolutely no idea what some of these traditions mean, are confidently lecturing everyone else about respect. Turning Arlington into a political battleground and using our fallen to take cheap shots at people they donāt like.
Do they have any idea what that place means to the families who actually have someone there? Do they even stop to think about us before they open their mouths?
Iām tired of it. Iām tired of the ignorance, the performative outrage, and watching something so sacred get reduced to another political argument.
Maybe Iām more emotional than usual today. Maybe everything has just caught up with me.
But I have spent nearly twenty years learning to live with an absence that never gets any smaller, and some days I simply donāt have the patience to watch people make a spectacle out of the very place where I go to feel close to him.
I am so damn thankful for every veteran who made it home.
I just wish mine had, too. š¢
SharrellAnne retweeted
Arlington National Cemetery honors the men and women who have served and continue to serve in the U.S. Armed Forces.
On behalf of a grateful nation: thank you.
š· Elizabeth Fraser
SharrellAnne retweeted
Iāve had the privilege of knowing some of the finest men and women this country has ever produced. Iāve watched them serve, witnessed the sacrifices their families made alongside them, and seen the kind of loyalty and brotherhood that doesnāt end when the uniform comes off.
Over the years, my family and I have been on the receiving end of that loyalty, generosity, and unwavering commitment to one another more times than I could ever count. Weāve been surrounded by veterans who have shown up for us, stood beside us, and reminded us that the bonds forged through military service extend far beyond the battlefield.
I will never be able to adequately express how grateful we are, not just for your service to this country, but for the extraordinary people you continue to be long after that service ends.
Happy Veterans Day. Iām damn proud to call so many of you my friends. ā¤ļø
Iām so damn tired of watching Arlington National Cemetery get weaponized against this administration every time someone visits.
Especially by people who have never set foot there and couldnāt care less about the families whose loved ones are buried on those grounds.
The Sentinel did his job. That doesnāt mean Secretary Hegseth did anything wrong.
If you canāt put your political hatred aside long enough to stop using our fallen as ammunition against people you dislike, you have absolutely no business lecturing anyone about respect.
SharrellAnne retweeted
When I was a young Army wife living on Fort Hood, we heard Taps played every night. Iāll be honest, I didnāt really understand it back then. I was young, in love, and building a life with my soldier. Those 24 notes were just part of our evenings, something I heard without ever imagining what they might one day mean to me.
I understand it nowā¦
Today, those same 24 notes stop me dead in my tracks. It doesnāt matter where I am or how many years have passed. For a moment, Iām standing at Arlington again.
Sometimes I think about that young Army wife at Fort Hood, listening to Taps without a care in the world, with no idea what life had waiting for her.
Iād give anything to hear it through her ears again. š„ŗ
Yāall, this is why it matters. š
When everybody showed up for Alan and our family on Memorial Day, I thought for sure Iād make it back to Arlington by Veterans Day. Life had other plans, and I still couldnāt get there.
But she did. ā¤ļø
A woman Iāve never even met remembered my husband and made sure he wasnāt forgotten today.
I canāt tell yāall how much that means to me. š„¹
SharrellAnne retweeted
šØ AWESOME! President Trump just honored 103-YEAR-OLD WWII VETERAN Wilbur Jackson "Jack" Myers and a STANDING OVATION broke out
His battalion was among the first to liberate Dachau concentration camp šš»
And he became ECSTATIC at his president honoring him ā¤ļø
"Today, Jack is a great grandfather and is here to receive our nation's gratitude at 103 years old. Jack, thank you!"
Jack served as an antitank gunner with the 692nd Tank Destroyer Battalion, fought in the Battle of the Bulge, and earned a Bronze Star
A TRUE American hero
When I was a young Army wife living on Fort Hood, we heard Taps played every night. Iāll be honest, I didnāt really understand it back then. I was young, in love, and building a life with my soldier. Those 24 notes were just part of our evenings, something I heard without ever imagining what they might one day mean to me.
I understand it nowā¦
Today, those same 24 notes stop me dead in my tracks. It doesnāt matter where I am or how many years have passed. For a moment, Iām standing at Arlington again.
Sometimes I think about that young Army wife at Fort Hood, listening to Taps without a care in the world, with no idea what life had waiting for her.
Iād give anything to hear it through her ears again. š„ŗ
SharrellAnne retweeted
I wasn't a soldier during GWOT, I retired in 1996. But I was contracted by DoD and DoS to conduct military training in both Iraq and Afghanistan.
I am/was a pretty damned good developer of training that increased the war-fighting capability of the students and units that I trained. My only goal was to ensure victory.
That goal was blocked by the bureaucrats, lawyers, and incompetent/corrupt politicians in both cases.
We had a chance in Iraq. It had been a functioning nation. I was in the business of helping the Iraqi Tactical Training Command produce viable, reliable, combat-ready brigades to fight the insurgency. We came close to accomplishing that task.Twice on that job, a couple of my Iraqi co-worked saved my life from targeted attacks on my person. We'd developed a damned good working relationship. Creating a voting democracy there was incredibly difficult. I worked alongside the Coalition members who were trying hard to make that happen, even though it may have been not in the cards. Never in that region's history had the populace ever elected political leaders. But the members of the Coalition and many Iraqis were trying. There was a chance.
Truthfully, we never had a chance in Afghanistan. That was never a functioning nation. It is just a region of warlords and thugs whose only goal was to maintain the 7th Century religious cult that is Islam.
I lost two good friends there. Both retired Infantry or SF sergeant majors, some of the best trainers you could ever find. Shot in the back on a BRM range by an insurgent infiltrated into the Afghan Army by the Taliban. Green on Blue they called it. The man who shot and killed them was immediately shot and killed by another US Army veteran. We knew the risks. But we had lost the battle with our own government about vetting new recruits. Yeah, it was difficult to vet them. But we did a piss-poor job of it because of the bureaucrats.
Until that lily-livered Obama yanked us out. "Iraq was the wrong war, Afghanistan was the right war", he said. Never in the history of the American Presidency was any president so stupidly wrong. We gave Iraq to ISIS and the ayatollahs of Iran with that move. Moqtada al-Sadr was overjoyed.
The United States military has gone through a weakening ever since Bill and that law-breaking Hillary became in charge. Stupid mandatory training requirements, putting women in close combat units, acceptance of trans and gender queer people into combat units, Affirmative Action promotions, political promotions, DEI, etc., all contributed to the decline of our nation's defenders from achieving maximum military efficacy.
Pete Hegseth saw the result and saw the solution. And with President Trump's backing, @SecWar Hegseth implemented that solution. When @President_Tump saw a nuclear-armed Iran in the near future, he directed Hegseth to reduce their nuclear capability. Knowing that this was going to negatively impact on his political future, President Trump directed the implementation of combat power anyway. (Well, done sir!) Yeah, we don't want boots on the ground in Iran, and the alternative is muddy, something HAD to be done. So he did it.
Attempting to impeach Pete Hegseth for trying to do a difficult but necessary task is blatantly stupid. But this is the morass we've gotten ourselves into. Just another step into the destruction of our republic.
I am a two-time combat veteran, a product of the reforms the Army made after the Viet-Nam War. A recipient of what was called Battle Focused Training. I rose through the ranks to become one of the soldiers responsible for developing and implementing combat training. I know how to create combat ready soldiers. I have done it it in the US Army and three out of four different nations.
Pete Hegseth deserves our support. Impeaching him would be a set back for the men and women who sign on the dotted line to competently defend our nation. Anything else is bullshit.
We donāt hate the mainstream media enoughā¦š
Marco Rubioās personal travel appears to significantly outpace that of his predecessors, former State Department officials said.
The flights have cost the government more than $1.2 million, The Post found, using Defense Department-published rates. wapo.st/3UHhabe
SharrellAnne retweeted
Today Iām honored and humbled to call myself a veteran.
Fifteen years in uniform. Combat sorties off the decks of the USS Abraham Lincoln and the USS Kitty Hawk. Landing Signals Officer (LS). 2 Marine squadrons. TOPGUN adversary. Reserves. Traps on 10 different boats. I served next to men and women I trusted with my life. That was the greatest privilege Iāve ever had.
Even more honored to continue to serve.
When God, my bride, and a few brothers pulled me back from the edge, I made a promise: put the ladder down for the next one. Thatās why we built @NoFallenHeroes Foundation, so our heroes can get the healing that saved my life. Thatās why we built Sacred Warrior Fellowship, so warriors have a spiritual home to come back to. Every day we lose somewhere between 22 and 44 of our brothers and sisters to suicide. I wonāt stop until that number is zero.
To my fellow Americans: thank you. When you tell a veteran āthank you for your service,ā it means something to some of us. But today and going forward I have a request.
Put a comma after it.
āThank you for your service, do you need anything? Can I help?ā
We were trained to compartmentalize, to stay tough and keep the mission moving. Most of us will say āIām goodā even when weāre not. But that one extra question might be the one that gets through. You just might save a life.
One more request: be an American worth serving for.
Lately I see more and more people who donāt love this country, and some who flat-out hate it. That breaks my heart. Generations of Americans bled for the freedom to argue, disagree, and build something better here. This is still the greatest country on this planet. It doesnāt stay that way by accident. It stays that way because ordinary people decide every day that itās worth defending, worth fixing, and worth loving.
So to every veteran out there: you are not forgotten, and you are not broken.
To every American: we risked our lives - now itās your watch. Take care of each other. Take care of this country. No one is coming to save us. We're the rally point. We're it.
Thank you to my beautiful bride Susan Buckley for being my rock and wingman.
Happy Veterans Day.
Fightās On!
@SuziNFH
Gold Star family here. I know people like you donāt actually give a damn what weāve sacrificed or what we have to say unless it confirms your warped narrative, but Iāll say it anywayā¦
Justice isnāt a political stunt wrapped in hollow promises to military families. Justice is accountability for the lives lost, the failures that cost them, and the families left to carry the consequences for the rest of their lives. Itās making sure our servicemembers have the leadership, resources, and support they deserve before another family gets a knock on the door that destroys their entire world.
I stand with @SecWar Hegseth. And you certainly donāt speak for us.
SharrellAnne retweeted
On Veterans Day we honor the courage, sacrifice, and unwavering dedication of the brave men and women who have defended our freedom and protected the American way of life. Our Nation is forever grateful.
God bless America's veterans! šŗšø
Veterans Day
Senator Fetterman handled this way better than I ever could⦠Little people scare the hell out of me. š¤£
BAHAHAHAHA FETTERMAN JUST WENT NUCLEAR ON PRO-PALESTINIAN ACTIVIST!
āWHY DO YOU LOVE HAMAS SO MUCH?ā
I never thought Iād be cheering on a Democrat, but here we are! š
Senator John Fetterman absolutely UNLOADED on Codepink activist Medea Benjamin after she confronted him over Israel. Credit where itās due.
Fetterman isnāt backing down!
SharrellAnne retweeted
You act like meme-wars are not what has quite literally kept this nation from tearing itself apart with fire and steel for the last decade.
This is the embodiment of embracing the current battlespace.
We can either talk about it, or we can fight about it. The memes make the talking funny and poignant and deflect the fighting.
You definitely do NOT want the fighting. Embrace the memes and the gifs and get in on the game if you want to save our Republic.































