En we vergeten dat we de rest van de wereld niet klein kunnen houden. Staan we dan vol verbazing te kijken dat we aan alle kanten ingehaald worden
Een groot probleem in Nederland is dat we elkaar continu klein proberen te houden. Alsof risico nemen en financieel vooruitkomen iets slechts is.
- Ga je ondernemen? Dan wil je vast exorbitant verdienen, over de rug van anderen.
- Beleg je? Dan ben je een parasiet die niks bijdraagt aan de maatschappij.
- Spaar je bewust, geef je niet alles uit en bouw je wat vermogen op? Dan heb je blijkbaar meer dan je nodig hebt.
En dat vind ik dus zo'n bizarre mentaliteit.
We zouden mensen juist moeten aanmoedigen om te ondernemen, te beleggen, risico te nemen en zelf iets op te bouwen.
Maar in Nederland lijkt het soms alsof je je bijna moet verontschuldigen als je financieel goed voor jezelf zorgt.
En let op: dat betekent echt niet dat je in een dikke auto rijdt of vier keer per jaar op vakantie gaat.
Het kan ook gewoon betekenen dat je een spaarpotje hebt voor als de wasmachine kapotgaat. Of dat je je kinderen straks een financieel duwtje kunt geven als ze gaan studeren.
Dat je gewoon wat minder zorgen hebt over geld. Is dat niet juist iets wat we iedereen zouden moeten gunnen?
Maar nee, heb je na jaren werken, sparen of risico nemen eindelijk wat opgebouwd? Dan vinden we al snel dat je daar best weer wat van kunt inleveren.
We zouden mensen moeten stimuleren om minder afhankelijk te worden, maar lijken ze liever afhankelijk te houden.
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Think about this often because I heard this on his podcast while walking outside in the cold with the stroller to get the baby to sleep - wondering when it ever would be the last time. There was a last time.
Great essay from Sam Harris on the “last time” for everything (from Waking Up App) — transcribed by @bot
Many here might not think highly of him any more, but he’s a clear thinker on many subjects — even if you don’t agree on politics.
**Transcript — The Last Time (Sam Harris)**
[0:00] I'd like you to take a moment to think about all the things in this life that you will experience for the last time. Of course, there will come a day when you will die and then everything will have been done for the last time.
[0:15] But long before you die, you will cease to have certain experiences, experiences that you surely take for granted now. If you're a parent, when is the last time you will pick up your child, or tuck her into bed, or read her a story?
[0:36] Our youngest daughter still says, aminals instead of animals. And though I'm a stickler for words, I am not correcting her. Each one of those is priceless.
Now thinking in this way lends a poignancy to everything, even to things that you don't like. Again, let's say you're a new parent and you're getting woken up several times a night by your baby. That's brutal, but there will be a last time.
And knowing that can change your experience in the moment. There's something sweet even about this experience. It's possible that you will miss this.
We do everything a finite number of times, and yet we tend to take even beautiful moments for granted. And the rest of the time we're just trying to get through stuff. You're just trying to get to the end of whatever experience you're having.
tim urban, who writes this wonderful blog titled @WaitButWhy, often touches this topic. He actually publishes a poster which represents 90 years of life in weeks. Each line has 52 squares, and there are 90 lines on a single page.
And the scale is frankly a little alarming to contemplate. Each week is a significant piece of 90 years, and you can put your finger on the current week in your life. You can see where you are, and then of course you realize you have no assurance of how many weeks you have left.
Assuming that you have 90 years, certainly 90 good years, is generally not a safe assumption. What you can know, however, is that each time you do something, pleasant or unpleasant, that is one last time you will do it.
And there will come a time when you will have done something the final time. And you will rarely know when that is. For instance, I used to love to ski, and I now haven't skied in well over a decade.
Will I ever ski again? I have no idea. But I can assure you that the last time I took off my skis, I was not even dimly aware of the possibility that it might be the last time, right?
That I might live for many, many more years, and yet this stood a good chance of being the last time I would ever ski. When is the last time you swam in the ocean or went camping?
When is the last time you took a walk just to take a walk? As you go about your day today, consider, everything you're doing is like this. Everything represents a finite opportunity to savor your life.
On some level, everything is precious, and if it doesn't seem that way, I think you'll find that paying more attention can make it seem that way. Attention really is your true source of wealth, even more than time, right?
Because you can waste time being distracted. So this is just to urge you to take a little more care. When you meet someone for the first time and you shake their hand, pay a little more attention.
When you thank somebody for something, mean it a little more. Connect with your life. And mindfulness is the tool that allows you to do that, because the only alternative is to be lost in thought
And every time you notice that you're lost, that you're distracted by a thought about the past or the future, and you come back, you are training your mind. And it may feel like an effort at first, but eventually it's like continually waking up from a dream.
And ask yourself, how much effort does that take?
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Playing competitive Counter-Strike as teenager teaches you so much. Remember that teenagers have no money but all the time in the world, everything is based on goodwill, status and respect. You better perform or you're out.
When I was in high school, I played World of Warcraft (2006) and my guild leader was an alcoholic military fanatic.
If you were late to a raid, you got no loot.
If you were late twice, you got benched.
If you were late three times, you got kicked from the guild.
That had a bigger impact on me than quite literally every other formative teenage experience put together.
Gaming culture, especially as a kid, shapes you in ways school and even sports or music can’t.
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