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“Behind The Looking Glass tells the stories of 18 women and explores the impact of the partner's transitioning on their wives and children”
From @DailyMailUK
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Trans Widows Voices response to the joint committee’s call for evidence on the draft Conversion Practices Bill has been submitted.
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Thousands of people on Oxford Street helped break the official Guinness World Records title for the most people simultaneously casting a spell during a Harry Potter-themed Christmas lights switch-on event.
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So theoretically every dude on the Her lesbian dating app could be reported to the police under the conversion therapy bill?
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Lisa Muggeridge's video is essential for all adults, irrespective of their profession.
We all have responsibility to safeguard children.
Imagine being a trainee social worker, teacher etc and NOT being told this during your first week, or at all.
This is core to safeguarding
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“ But this social worker’s point applies anywhere adults work with children. Some people will seek out those roles for the wrong reasons. And the person whose behaviour you need to question might be the nicest person you know.
She also makes an important point about why safeguarding starts with having a clear sense of what’s normal and what isn’t. Once that boundary starts to blur, it’s easier for someone to cross it without being challenged.”
This used to form the basis of much #safeguarding/child protection training.
Sadly a lot of training in some areas has now itself been infiltrated.
Whereas it’s a message that needs to be constantly reiterated as people find it so hard to apply in real life situations.
#RestoreSafeguarding
Imagine being in your first week of social work training and being told that some of your fellow students might be there to gain access to vulnerable children.
Shocking, right? But this social worker’s point applies anywhere adults work with children. Some people will seek out those roles for the wrong reasons. And the person whose behaviour you need to question might be the nicest person you know.
She also makes an important point about why safeguarding starts with having a clear sense of what’s normal and what isn’t. Once that boundary starts to blur, it’s easier for someone to cross it without being challenged.
I wish I’d seen this video years ago. I can think of times when something felt off and I kept quiet because I worried I might be wrong or cause offence.
Thanks @JournalistJill for highlighting it.
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"I really welcome being labelled vanilla/prude/tendersexual
if that means I’m fully capable of having an orgasm without the aid of being strangled, punched, tortured in any way or watching that happen to others"
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At the Royal Courts, supporting @SexMattersOrg in the challenge to the Corporation of London, who allow trans identifying men into the Ladies Pond on Hampstead Heath
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An account called "Trans Widows' Voices" wasn't created to post cute kitten videos.
“I’ve decided to spend more time with my wanking”
As some have predicted, trying to repress my AGP has not worked, even with the Catholicism. It has been a constant struggle. I'm tired of battling my own desires. I want to go back to integration and crossdressing. I don't know how to square this with my faith.
But I don't care anymore. Repression doesn't work. It just led to endless binge/purge cycles. I gave repression my absolute best shot. But I cannot do it anymore. AGP is a core part of me.
There's obviously the sexual kinky side, which I enjoy, but there's also the side of me that just genuinely enjoys more "feminine" interests like women's fashion, makeup, beauty, skincare, etc., and wants to openly incorporate these interests into my life and how I present myself, whereas as a "conservative Catholic detrans man" those forms of expression were not available to me.
I have no interest in re-transitioning via a gender identity or adopting new pronouns again or anything like that. I am firm in my knowledge of being a man. Been there done that. Neverthless, I see a future where I am free to crossdress to my heart's content and embrace my sexuality. I simply love women's clothing and fashion too much. My whole life I've loved women's clothes. I don't know why. Can't explain it. But a future deprived of that seems bleak to me.
I know some of my more GC oriented followers are going to bristle at the thought of me once again bringing my fetish "out of the bedroom." But I don't really care what GCs think anymore. My once hardline GC position has somewhat softened, especially insofar as it concerns AGPs expressing themselves publicly. I don't really care if it's considered "shameful" or "perverted" by some.
Moreover, I still believe in common sense. Haven't changed my mind on sports, child transition, basic reality, etc. But I feel like I am reverting back to a more "liberal" position of letting people express themselves so long as other people's rights are being protected, even if there is a degree of "ick" from male sexuality.
And I've come to realize 99% of the philosophical debate around "are trans women women" is verbal dispute, like almost all philosophical debate over the meaning of words. It obviously has real-world implications that are important, but the philosophical debate itself doesn't interest me anymore. Nor do I feel myself aligned with GCs against trans as this all-encompassing civilization-ending boogeyman that sucks up all my time and energy. I've grown tired of the whole GC debate. Some will say this is now just obviously self-serving. But, again, I have stopped caring about what GCs think.
Last, I want to address the accusation that I am a flip-flopping, flighty, unstable zealot who goes from one extreme thing to the next looking for an emotional crutch. Yeah, pretty much, lol. I got called out accurately. Everyone who predicted Catholicism was a temporary crutch to cope with my gender feelings can now feel vindicated. However, I do want to say that my faith beliefs were genuine. It was all genuine. It really was a struggle. It really was a beautiful journey. And I still consider myself Catholic. I still believe in God. Obviously, I don't know how to square my newfound liberal convictions with conservative Catholicism. But I will square that circle later (somehow, maybe).
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This is a serious development.
It doesn’t matter if I agree with what KJK said. I don’t even know what was said. If I did, there’s a high chance I’d agree with the sentiment and be able to articulate it in a way that would not lead to a pernicious charge - ie harassment by police.
But that’s the point I want to make here.
I am now seeing people getting questioned by police, and charged, for the *way* they speak their minds.
Not only is that absurd, because short of calling for actual violence speech should not be *criminalised* at all, there’s also a massive issue with plain speaking being punished, while weasel words (ie using big and clever words to give an air of intellectualism to whatever you’re saying) gets a free pass.
That is elitism that not only serves to enable and defend ideologies I vigorously oppose, but also serves as a classist weapon.
And I am sure KJK knows that, which is why I respect her for putting herself in the crosshairs.
Plenty of us can dance around the point using word games as a shield. I can quite happily talk about “inherently misogynistic and homophobic ideologies and my wish for them to be eradicated from all civilised societies” - and you can correctly infer what I actually mean.
But why should we have to do that?
(And I do wish misogynistic, homophobic, intolerant and violent ideologies were eradicated from every society on earth. And I do think as a country we should collectively take a principled stand against every ideology that espouses ideas that are incompatible with humanity. I’m just dancing round the point of exactly which ones and how. That’s for you to infer. Because at the same time I know full well neither of us are pro violence. Quite the opposite. That’s the point)
Kellie-Jay Keen has been charged under s.127 of the Communications Act 2003 over posts made between 23 and 25 June.
As ex-police, here's how it works:
• No victim needed
• No intent needed
• The offence is complete once the message is sent if a court finds it 'grossly offensive' (DPP v Collins [2006] UKHL 40)
That's a very low bar for a criminal charge over words.
But Chambers v DPP [2012] EWHC 2157 set a high bar for these cases, and Article 10 protects speech that offends, shocks or disturbs. A district judge decides on 4th December.
One to watch.
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Here for @TERF_Times we outline the likely potential detriments to #transwidows of the Conversion Practices Bill & also ask if there will be benefits: will our husbands have to stop pressuring us to be lesbians & also sacrifice opposing the “spousal veto”
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